Charisma
Are we born with natural charisma, or can we learn, train to have it?
Some could tell me that some have it or do not have it. On the other hand, some can say that if we use all the tools, train, and put into practice what we have learned about it, we can obtain that charisma.
Have you ever entered a meeting or a conference, and the person who is speaking has a magnetism that makes the entire audience, including you, feel good, comfortable, talented? Above all, that person transmits a feeling of power, presence, and warmth, right? Well, we call these types of people charismatic.
Beyond leadership, charisma is a skill that connects us with others in a genuine way. In difficult times we all want a leader. The one who makes the hard, but right decision, the one who has the vision. What about the people who are intelligent and have leadership, that charm; the charisma, which is more comprehensive and integral. Charismatic people don't have visions of the future. They see the future right in front of their eyes. They spread self-confidence in others just by breathing, they count on people, and people can count on them.
When we have a leader in a room, a charismatic person, we feel more attracted to the charm of the charismatic person. Now, we have heard charisma isn't something we develop or train to have. Through time, studies have demonstrated something different. We can possess, boost our charisma as a natural skill, and I will tell you the three necessary actions you should take to start moving towards that goal: being present, transmitting power, and transmitting warmth. This way we can go on practicing and improving or including the charisma in our personality.
Being present means being connected one hundred percent with the present and to the person with whom we are generating contact. It is common to be absent from a conversation mentally because we are thinking a thousand miles per hour. However, we must work on being present in the body and mind at the right moment when people need us there. If we do not cultivate our presence, if we are not in the present, if we are not in the here and now, how are we going to connect with others, and how are we going to offer our help or perhaps pass judgment and even generously offer advice.
The power we transmit to others means that we can affect and change the world around everyone; we just share our ideas. Power not only implies authority, but also authority based on security, strength, expertise, and ethics.
The warmth we give to others means showing that we care about what others think, feel, and show they belong. Being kind, warm with others develops not only our good intentions but with what purpose we want to do things and for what reason. The good of all—being friendly means being coherent between our body language, communication, and behavior with others.
The charisma carries specific characteristics that make an attractive, motivating, magnetic person. People who have charm are people who will generally show you in the exercise of interacting with them, presence, warmth, and power. Steve Jobs, Dalai Lama, Martin Luther King Jr., and others; if you watch videos of these people, you feel attracted to them. That is why they are the right example of charismatic people.
I know you will be saying that these characters are from another category or level and that you do not fall into that category. Still, they are not from a completely unrelatable category, or another planet. They are charismatic human beings, and we could be too. We just need to listen, heed the call of society and use the confidence of the power, presence, and warmth to give the world a little bit of more of that charm. We need to evolve into a connected society that feels empathy and wants to do better for everybody. Let’s use charisma to help others to find confidence and strength. It does not matter if some have natural charisma or others do not have it from the beginning of their lives. Let’s observe those who already have it and continue practicing so that we also can attract individuals with just our presence, actions, and words.
Now communicator, tell me, are you charismatic, do you know someone who is it and would you be willing to start learning from them, how to be or become one?