Self Discovery

How do we actually discover who we are and then be brave enough to be it, live it, and breathe it?

• What if I tell you that you will discover yourself in the process of the chaos?

Without chaos, there can be no change, and without change, there is no evolution. We are all seeking how to transform uncertainty, fears, insecurities, discomfort, complexes, pain into the powerful magic of evolving our lives for good, for an important reason to move forward and into the next stage in life. This is a good spark of energy that we intuitively know is possible in our lives. Welcome to the Communicator’s Lens, to my worlds of thoughts, perceptions, and life experience written in a blog. 

You will see, self-discovery it’s a word that a lot of dictionaries don’t address adequately. They do not provide the full definition, the characteristics of the word itself are not portrayed. They define this word as “the process of acquiring insight into one's character.” Well, I assure you that you and I have noticed in our journey of self-discovery that part of realizing and figuring out who we are takes much more than recognizing our character. Sure, we get to know, identify, and be aware of our emotions. 

However, knowing who you are indeed not only takes discovering more  about your courage but also bringing together everything that makes up the "self," for instance; self-love, self-control, self-esteem, self-care, self-respect, etc. What happens and matters is that sometimes recognizing “yourself” as total, as one individual with defects and abilities, means experiencing the chaos and letting that chaos bring out the best of yourself. In other words, the path of self-discovery inevitably leads to Personal Self-Realization, and we notice that the key to self-realization is the way you face and react to the chaos. Afterward, we can identify that chaos is needed to evolve. As a matter of fact, without chaos, there can be no change, and without change, there is no evolution; and without growth, there is no self-discovery.

I was two years old when I had a car accident. I was a little girl who spent more time in the hospital than at school or at home. I would say that my car accident was chaos putting my family into a moment of evolution. As a family, you just don’t expect that suddenly one day a car’s brakes would malfunction and that the vehicle would flip over, shattering your little girl’s arm. That is in fact what happened to my family and me, and I  was that little girl. It took thirteen years for the doctor to reconstruct my arm, and it took my mom one second to realize that what was coming after the accident was a war where she needed to become the captain, and I would become her first officer. Life doesn’t come easy, not for everyone. The point here is that because of that accident, my self-discovery is a journal that I can now share. I am currently in my late 20's and the Chaos Theory and the Butterfly Effect of the situation that happened to me when I was just a baby has made me more and more aware of who I am, who I have become, who I am becoming every day. 

When I talk about the famous Butterfly Effect, I refer to a concept that is directly related to what is also known as the effect of Chaos Theory. It means that a little change can catalyze more changes; a small incident can have a significant impact on your future. The latter ensures that slight variations in the initial conditions of an event can cause substantial differences in the  future. 

It is here in the butterfly effect that self-discovery can become the culmination of self-control. We can now decide how to react, then act in the face of challenging, tense, and stressful situations in our life. What happens is that sometimes it is difficult for people even to understand themselves, then to find the courage needed to face the difficulties that life throws at them. Part of the work of our life experience is to study human behavior and to try to provide ideas about our motivations and empowering factors as a complete individual. 

It is not a secret to anyone that the human mind is still an enigma. We should choose not to say that because then, we may stop trying to know ourselves and discover our mission in this life. Self-discovery seeks to define exactly what we are made for in the world. The path of self-discovery inevitably leads to Personal Self-Realization, a journey in which we may never get to know ourselves precisely, but one where it is quite possible that we do not even know the origin of our attitudes with certainty. What is certain is that through specific parameters, we can discover what we are passionate about and what fills us with life and organizes the chaos.

Many people think that self-discovery is something that is achieved in a certain timeframe with a simple analysis of yourself and through detecting and accepting our own mistakes. That idea could not be more distant from the truth. It is essential to always have a lot of self-motivation in our desire to discover ourselves, and it is here where many fail. During my surgeries, appointments with the doctors, experiencing bullying, accepting my disability while I was growing up, I started to understand that I was also part of the chaos because my mind was spinning around trying to go away from it instead of figure that the chaos was there to teach me something, to make me build a better version of myself. It took me years to let the chaos bring the best out of myself, but it did bring out the best. What I did first was to cheer myself up every time I felt defeated, cheer myself up every time people made me cry my eyes out, push myself to see the chaos and motivate myself to organize it. You might be wondering, How? Well, motivation played a massive part in that "how." I knew I needed to be wholly motivated so I wouldn't be scared and intimidated by the situations. I knew after that motivation, even if I did not know how to organize the chaos, I would still flow uncontrollably like the river. Every time I found an obstacle,I would do what the water does when it meets a rock as it moves around it, and keeps on flowing.  

Now, Communicators, tell me, do you believe that we need spells to discover ourselves? Or perhaps, do we need the help of other people to help us understand ourselves as a complete individual and to figure out that motivation is key to always moving  forward evenly through the universe? Life will throw chaos at us, how we respond, that is up to us.